John Markum

Why you shouldn’t commit suicide

I recently preached at one of our services at Edgewood where I shared with our church that I was once on the brink of taking my life. God brought me through some intense and painful moments in my life to allow me to speak life into someone else who may be considering following through with the last and worst decision of their life. I acknowledge that, statistically, many of my readers here on the blog either have considered or attempted suicide, or have been affected by it through someone close to them who has. If that’s you or someone close to you, I want to give you 4 reasons to put down your selected instrument of death and never go back to that thought again:

  1. It’s Selfish: Suicide is easily the most selfish thing that you can do. If you take your own life, you are saying to the world that you care more about the way you feel right now than how you are going to make everyone you know feel for the rest of their lives. Perhaps you even want to make some of them hurt, but consider all of the collateral damage you would cause. For the rest of their lives these people will have to hurt at the thought of what you did – your parents, siblings, friends, classmates, coworkers, girlfriend/boyfriend, spouse, children, church, youth group, pastor, etc…
  2. It’s Permanent: Unlike most of the actual reasons people commit suicide, this is not fixable. It can’t be undone. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Whatever you’re going through right now that is causing you to consider ending it all, there are alternatives to escaping this. Perhaps you’re stuck in an abusive situation… then get out. Go anywhere else. Heck! Hitch-hike to Canada before you just quit! Perhaps you’re experiencing a profound loss. The pain does wear off. New relationships bring comfort and healing. Maybe you were broken up with, or divorced, or abandoned, or lost someone close to you to death. My heart genuinely goes out to you. But just because this is the end of a part of your life, does not mean it is the end of your entire life.
  3. It’s Faithless: God’s faithfulness is the most consistent theme throughout the entire Bible. Not that bad stuff didn’t happen. But God proves His faithfulness even in life’s darkest hours. The Psalmist once wrote, “I wait for You more than they who wait for the morning.” What he means is,“God, I am so sure that You will come through for me that I have even more confidence in You showing up, than the watchmen who are waiting for morning light to show up.” Faith in these moment looks like this – God, this hurts right now, and I want out so bad. But I know that somehow,  this is not where my story ends. And since You haven’t called me home to You yet, I will wait and see how You show up in the middle of this current anguish.
  4. You’ll Miss Out: I was 18 when I almost took my life. If I had ended it all there, I would have missed out on the following: 4 amazing, life-transforming years of college – building several friendships that would last a lifetime – meeting and marrying the most beautiful, compassionate woman in the world –  seeing God show up in miraculous ways – raising 3 (almost 4) incredible kids – finding a loving, empowering church family – playing catch with my little boy – dancing with my little “princesses” in the living room – having tickle parties with my kids – watching my kids give their lives to Christ – seeing them fall in love – walking my girls down the aisle – growing old with my wife – helping countless dozens who have almost taken their lives. Don’t you get it?!? Every great story has moments of doubt, confusion, trial, hopelessness, and darkness. Don’t quit before you get to see your story finish the right way with victory and overcoming the odds.

Don’t put a period in your life, where God has only put a comma. You are worth it. Your story is going to be empowering to someone else. Your greatest moments are still ahead. Pain doesn’t have to just hurt. Make it through this! Trust me! It IS worth it… I would know.

Blessings,

John

Challenge #4: Increase Giving

Edgewood Challenge #4: Increase giving by 1%

People in church always act funny when you talk about money. This is the point in my blog when I make it clear that I am only addressing church folk. If you don’t have a relationship with Christ, then the following excludes you. We have way bigger concerns for you than finances, and quite honestly, your money is the last thing we want.

But for those who claim the name of Jesus, we are commanded to be generous, and to trust God in our finances. Jesus taught us that “where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” God tells us that there is a direct relationship between our heart and our wallet. I can likely guess what you value most with a high degree of accuracy just by glancing over your bank statement. What we are asking is, for our church to increase our giving by 1%. For most of us, that means an increase in giving of $2-$10/week.

Statistically speaking, only about 3% of church goers tithe. That’s it. One of the most fundamental acts of worship, showing gratitude to God for providing for our needs, and demonstrating faith that He will continue to provide, and less than 1 out of 20 Christians are being obedient… We’re better than that, church!

We’re not pushing this challenge because we want something from you. Jesus promised that He would build His church. He is ultimately responsible for meeting the needs in the church, just as He is in your home. So the churches financial needs are going to get met with or without my giving or yours. We’re challenging our church to do this because we want something for you. We want you to experience the fullness of living by faith and seeing God come through for you. We want you to experience the power of relying on God more than 1/10 of your paycheck.

We did happen to notice that there is a recession going on. We know that many people have cut back or completely cut out giving to church as a result of lost hours, wages, and jobs. What better time and opportunity to reach out to God and find that He is enough… just like He promised He would be.  You say that you trust Jesus with your soul and eternity. Doesn’t it make sense that He can handle your offerings as well.

My wife and I went through an intense time of testing a few years ago. Financially, we were strapped. But we were able to experience that God was faithful even when we had a mortgage, 4 mouths to feed, and no clue where our next paycheck would come from. So from experience I’m telling you: God can make 90% of your income go much further than you can make 100%.

For some of you, this challenge means that you take a baby step and simply start to give something. For others, you have been trusting God with your tithes, and this is less of a challenge for you. Regardless of where this challenge hits you, be obedient to what God is calling you to do. Together, through our generosity, we can change the world.

Blessings,

John

Challenge #3: Share Christ

Edgewood Challenge #3: Share Christ: Lead one person to the Lord.

This is one that I am particularly excited about! This task may seem daunting to many of my readers so I want to give you 3 levels of evangelism and ask each of you to graduate through all 3 levels as you have opportunities to do so.

1) Pray

Anyone can pray. Make a short list of people that are already in your sphere of influence that are far from God and need to experience new life in Christ. Pray for them daily by name. Ask God to soften their heart and to give you the opportunity to take the next step with them.

2) Pursue

This requires you to open your mouth and say something to them. It only has to be as awkward as you want to make it. We offer invite cards to many of our services (including The Awakening on Saturday nights, and Elevate on Sunday mornings for teens). Use an invite card and simply say something like, “It would really mean a lot to me if you came to this with me this week. I hope you’ll at least consider it.” Maybe they will come. Maybe they’ll be impacted by the Gospel. Maybe they’ll give their life to Christ right then and there. Don’t underestimate the power of a sincere invitation. The “Pursue” level can be summed up in 2 words “Invest” in your relationships, and “Invite” them to a worship experience.

3) Pursuade

Given the opportunity, you should always be willing to “give an answer for the hope that is within you.” You don’t have to know a ton of Scripture, though knowing a few verses can definitely help. Bottom line though is share your faith-changing experience of when you came to Christ, and give them an opportunity to do the same. Edgewood is working on some classes in the near future to help you do that and feel less awkward about it. In the meantime, just tell them how you gave your life to Christ.

I believe that as our church becomes faithful in sharing Christ, that we will soon begin to hear countless stories of life change. How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news. Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord!

Blessings,

John

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