John Markum

My kids say, “Yes sir”

I’ve heard it all…

  • That’s old fashioned.
  • You were raised in the South, weren’t you?
  • Were you in the military or something?
  • etc…

Recently, Tiffany and I have been cracking down on our girls answering us with a “yes sir” or “yes ma’am” when we call them to come to us or when we tell them to do something. Some think that is kind of outdated, but there has definitely been a notable change. Emilee’s attitude has improved 200% in the last 3 weeks. Kali has been playing nicer with everyone. And the two of them have taken initiative with cleaning their rooms, helping set the table, and much more.

Here’s what we’ve noticed: There is a direct connection between honor and obedience. So when I teach my kids how to honor their parents, somehow they simultaneous learn that honor is more than just giving the right answer when told to do something.

And just in case you were wondering, yes, I do say “yes ma’am” to Tiffany and to our girls. And I say “yes sir” to my 2 year old son. I want my girls to know how to be treated by a boy, and I want my little man to one day be a man of honor. So I speak life into them now.

It’s not a southern culture or a military culture. It’s a culture of honor. And the benefits of teaching our kids about honor are multi-dimensional.

Create a culture of honor and respect in your home. You won’t regret it.

“Give to all what is due them: tax to whom tax is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honor to whom honor.” Romans 13:7

Blessings,

John

Traffic Rock-Out


I got stared down in traffic the other day while rocking out to some Skillet on my iPod. Awake, good CD! Anyway… I’m certain that I looked ridiculous in traffic playing a crazy air guitar and drum solo. The truck next to me in traffic had two little girls and their Dad getting a good laugh at me rocking out in our minivan.

I’m sure you don’t look nearly as bizarre as me in traffic, but have you ever felt the same way? Like you were excited and passionate about something you felt God wanted you to do, but others were just getting a laugh at your enthusiasm? Or maybe you have something compelling that God has put on your heart, but you’re apprehensive of sharing it with someone else because you don’t think they would get it?

Truth is, you’re probably right. The reason? The same reason I look like a moron in traffic. The people in the other car can’t hear what I hear. And the people critical of your calling don’t hear what God is telling you to do either. If the people in traffic could hear what I was hearing, then maybe they would be moving like I was moving.

If God was telling other people the same thing He was telling you, then maybe they would share your enthusiasm.

But God didn’t tell them. He told you. It doesn’t have to get others excited. Just you. Don’t wait for other people to approve of God’s calling on your life before you obey. And pay no attention to those who don’t get it.

My response to the other people in the other lane, laughing at my traffic time rock-out? I smiled, waved, and kept jamming out.

The music was just too good to stop for the sake of the opinion of someone else.

Blessings,

John

Making summer memories…

Every season has it’s unique qualities that make them special. But for me, no season tops summer! Some of my best memories come from summertime. Topping the list, I think of…

  1. Living and working with my cousins, Ronnie and Rhonda Markum, in Stillwater, OK. I worked real hard, learned a ton of practical skills, and spent time with a great part of my extended family. (1997)
  2. Panama Missions Trip… Nothing short of powerful and life changing. Sealed my decision to go into ministry. (1999)
  3. Arriving at Bible college alone. Felt God speaking His confidence into me like never before. Wouldn’t change anything (2000)
  4. Finding and falling in love with my wife/Marrying her the following summer (2003/2004)
  5. Moving to the Quad Cities and Edgewood. (2008)

With a thousand other things that make summer what it means to me -fishing with Dad, baseball, mowing lawns, swimming, the beach, 4th of July, camping, tans, etc.- I always look forward to what each summer has to bring. What are some of your favorite summer memories? Leave a comment and share!

Blessings,

John

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