This is a re-post from pastor and author, Steven Furtick. It was so good and timely to singles today, that I had to share it with you. You can follow his blog at stevenfurtick.com
There’s a lot of advice I could give to single and dating people.
How to be content in this season you’re in.
The kind of person you should be looking to marry.
Boundaries for when you’re dating.
All of those are good and necessary. But there’s something that most Christians completely miss that’s an essential principle for optimal relationships and marriages. If you don’t get this, it doesn’t matter who you date because it will be a fraction of the relationship God meant for you. And your marriage to them will be too.
Happiness is not finding the right person. It’s being the right person.
I’ve seen countless Christians sabotage their marriages not because they married the wrong person but because when they got married they weren’t the right person for the other person. Not in their chemistry, but in their character.
If two half people get together and they’re not complete in Christ, they don’t make a whole person. They subtract from each other rather than adding to each other and they become more miserable.
There’s only one half you’re responsible for right now. And that’s your half.
Stop looking for the person of your dreams and start becoming someone another person is dreaming about. Make someone else’s dreams become a reality.
A lot of single people make lists of what they want in the person they’re looking for. That’s fine. Just make sure that if the person you’re looking for had the same list, they’d find you.
You may be waiting in this season of your life for God to bring the right person.
Or you may be wondering if the person you’re dating is the right person.
He will do it.
He will reveal it.
In the meantime, be what you’re looking for.